Anger Management & Domestic Violence:
Discovering the dynamics of Anger and converting it into Healthy Energy:
- Identifying the best ways to handle anger.
- Understand how pride, fear, loneliness, and inferiority feed your anger .
- Uncover and eliminate the myths that perpetuate anger
- "Letting go of my anger means conceding defeat" or "No one understands my unique problems"
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Identify learned patterns of relating, thinking, and behavior in your life that influences your anger.
Identifying Your Anger
- What Is Anger
- Managing Your Anger
Anger Thrives on Unmet Needs
- Why Can't You Just Love Me?
- Feeling Controlled Causes Anger
- Myths That Perpetuate Anger
- Self-Inflicted Anger
How Other Emotions Create Anger
- How Pride Influences Anger
- Fear's Effect on Anger
- Loneliness Creates Anger
- Anger Reflects Inferiority Feelings
Applying New Insights about Anger Reduction
- Why Anger Lingers
- Developing Conflict Resolution Skills
- Being Accountable
Family, Divorce & The Blended Families:
Family Life and the things that affect it!
UNDERSTANDING:
- Families Origins & Family Systems
- Addiction Cycles
- How to Find Freedom
- Communication Skills
- How to Resolve Conflict
- How Past Generation Influences Effect You Presently
- Spiritual Resources & Blessings
- Roles Each Family Member Plays
- How Taking the “I” and the “You” Position Effect the Family Unit
Major Issues Couples are Facing Today
- Communication
- Finances and Budgeting
- Sexual Intimacy
- Parenting
- Blended Families
- Infidelity
- Relationships - Parents, In-laws, Siblings, Job, Friends
Evaluation Tools:
- Understanding your partners Love Language
- Gaining insight to each others Personality Profile better
- A Marital Inventory
- Sexual Marital Inventory
- Seven Rules of Fighting Fair
- Ten Simple Steps to Financial Freedom
Marriage Separation & Reconciliation Mediation
When the issues in marriage seemingly can’t be solved sometimes separation can bring the added motivation needed to make the sacrifices and changes needed to save the marriage. Separation gives the needed pain and discomfort to help us to:
- Listen better to what the other is saying, feel heard for the first time
- Produce the time and space to fix misplaced priorities, mental health, addiction problems
- Positive dialog regarding employment/money/parenting changes needed to save the marriage
- Improve communication to explore marriage reconciliation
- Make the changes as an alternative to divorce
- Structure a temporary plan for child visitation/custody and finances
- Set boundaries together for personal time, space, and finances
- See what it is like to be divorced...... test drive different living arrangements, financial strategies, child custody/visitation, before divorcing or as an effort to saving the marriage
- Discuss a future plan of action if marriage does not survive
Parenting: Today’s Ultimate Challenge In this Age and Society
Discipline:
Making it FAIR, FIRM, as well as FRIENDLY
THE PROBLEMS WE FACE:
- As Parents
- As Divorced Parents
- As a Single Parent
- As Step Parents
- As a Blended Family
- As Grand Parents
- AND Off Course With Children
ADULTS WORKING TOGETHER:
- Understanding the Parenting Roles
- Can Divorced Parents Co-operate?
- Step Parenting a Greater Challenge
- How do Grand Parents Fit In?
- The Blended Family Brings more Challenges
NOW THAT WE HAVE ALL THAT DOWN – THE BOTTOM LINE
- Choosing Schools – Public School – Private school – Home School – Trade School – College
- Strong Will – Rebellion
- Dating – Inner-Cultural
- To Transition from Disciplinarian Parent to a Resource Parent
Building Character: helping your child become all they can; understanding and knowledge for their choices; wisdom for their future options Disciplining, teaching, training, molding,
- does it seem like new issues daily?
- do you feel in over your head?
- never thought it would be this difficult!
- I’ve never been trained for this!
- don’t know where to turn!
- feel like I’ve lost control!
- really want things to change.... BUT.....
- feel like giving up!
- are there real solutions to my problems?
- where do I start?
Grief & Loss:
Grief is experienced with just about every loss one can experience in life. Everyone respond and deals with grief differently. There are several stages of grief that one can go through. At times you can be in two or more of them at the same time. You can also go back and forth in those stages.
They Can Be:
- denial
- anger turned outward
- anger turned inward
- genuine grief (usually includes crying)
- depression
- substitution
- restoration
A Short List of Losses:
- Close Friend
- Extended Family Member
- Grandparent
- Parent
- Spouse
- Child
- Health
- Job
- Finances
- Children Move
- You Move, etc.
If you have lost a loved one be death, we would like to express our deepest sympathy and condolences to you and your family. This is a very awkward difficult time and at times confusing for you and the family. We would like to assist you with the steps that are now needed to make this process of grief less stressful.
Dealing with Grief & Loss in Your time of Need.......
Here are some thoughts and feeling you deal with in you time of Grief:
- Does anyone know how I feel?
- The loneliness is overwhelming!
- Who will take care of all those things?
- Life goes on but not for me!
- No one seems to care!
- Who can Help?
- Where do you go?
- What can you do?
Stress-Anxiety-Depression:
At times all three of these can be present. Often Stress and Anxiety can interchangeably trigger the other.
Stress is necessary for motivation. Some see stress as good, others see it as bad. Certainly too much stress can become harmful to just about everyone. Too much stress drains the body’s ability to fight off disease. There are some unknown cause of stress. Stress can be cause by anything such as:
- driving on a crowded expressway
- aggravates you or frightens you
- loud music or living near an airport
- causes you to rush or causes you to worry
- neighbors who irritate you
- creates adversity or produces anger
- poor lighting or florescent lighting
- places unexpected demands upon you
- poor time management
- damages your self esteem
- always being late – causes you to be anxious
- loneliness or a spouse who doesn’t communicate
Anxiety:
(Some causes: threats, conflicts, fears, unmet needs, individual differences)
Coping with Anxiety by:
- admitting fears, insecurities, conflicts, and anxieties when they arise
- talking these over with someone else
- building self-esteem
- acknowledging that separation hurts, attempting to maintain contact with separated friends, and building new relationships with others
- seeking help for God and others in meeting one’s needs
- learning some communication skills
- evaluating one’s priorities, life goals, and time management on a regularly basis
Depression:
Some causes of depression:
- Some effects of Depression:
- physical-genetic causes
- unhappiness and inefficiency
- background causes
- masked reactions
– learned helplessness
- withdrawal
- negative thinking
- suicide
- life’s stress, anger
Vocational Guidance:
Choosing a career often is seen as a once-in-a-lifetime event beginning early on in life and working towards it during school and influences ones college courses and future job selection. But that is usually not the way it happens. Often people change jobs and vocations more than once during a lifetime.
Basic steps are:
- Learning about the person
- Learning about vocations most available in the area
- Matching the person talents with job requirements
Some people make Good Choices others make Poor Choices do to:
- Social Pressure
- Personality Influences
- Interests
– Aptitudes or Abilities
- Values
Even Devine Leading
Vocational Guidance:
Choosing a career often is seen as a once-in-a-lifetime event beginning early on in life and working towards it during school and influences ones college courses and future job selection. But that is usually not the way it happens. Often people change jobs and vocations more than once during a lifetime.
Basic steps are:
- Learning about the person
- Learning about vocations most available in the area
Matching the person talents with job requirements
Some people make Good Choices others make Poor Choices do to:
- Social Pressure
- Personality Influences
- Interests
- Aptitudes or Abilities
- Values
- Even Devine Leading